Keeping busy – I mean a-ma-zing-ly busy – is one of several options survivors of loss use to avoid thinking and talking about IT – their enormously pain-filled and devastating loss.

A quick look at their calendar – with Continue reading →

Suffering is an awful and powerful experience to witness.  When our beloved spouse, parent or “not my child, please!” is in physical agony, our chest aches with unspeakable pain.  There are no adequate words Continue reading →

More than any other grieving adults I‘ve helped over the years, I firmly believe that parents are the greatest victims of guilt because of this over-powering belief that they are responsible for their child’s death.  This is their logic: Continue reading →

Believers’ faith is sometimes devastated by the loss of their beloved when that death is unexpected and when great suffering proceeds their loss.  This is especially true when one’s spouse or a child – of any age or Continue reading →

Would you refuse to see a doctor if you’d broken your arm?

Instead what if you decided to take matters into your own hands, protect your arm, hoping for the best?  Never happen.  Seeing a physician is Continue reading →

It really does help to remember and include your Loved One, despite thinking, ‘I just want to take a pill and sleep through them!’  Survivors of loss may also tell me that, at the very least, Continue reading →

CLAIM LIMITS

Grief is very energy consuming.  You are tired for much of your day.  The holidays put additional demands on your already lowered energy!  Reduce your expectations of what you must do.  Claim your Continue reading →

Am pleased to again share another poignant writing by a former client of mine, from over a decade past, who lost her adult daughter suddenly in an auto accident, two months before her wedding.  I’ve recently received permission Continue reading →

Would you refuse to see a doctor if you’d broken your arm?

Instead what if you decided to take matters into your own hands, protect your arm, hoping for the best?  Of course we’re not choosing this!.  Continue reading →

Clients often ask me this question, or some variant of it, trying to ‘normalize’ their efforts to avoid anything that triggers feelings of loss for their Beloved.  These triggers become a client’s avoidance list, as I call it, which Continue reading →